I often write about mothers, motherhood, how hard mom-ing is and more. However there is another person out there that we all forget all about. Dads! Yeah that’s right you read it right, Dads/Fathers. Unfortunately a lot of us (including me) don’t give them some credit that they deserve and also need. I am talking out the Fathers out there that are true fathers, the ones who stepped up to the plate and didn’t back down, the ones who need this encouragement.
Some of you are probably thinking WHY? Why should we thank them? What do they even do around the house and for the kids? Are you talking about all fathers?
Well let me answer that for you, they do a lot! Actually they do many things like us mothers. They hold the family together, they put just as much pressure on their shoulders to get it right, the pressure be the perfect father. They provide, protect, serve, and guide the family whether that is working or staying at home. They shape how our precious little boys should act as a man and shape how to treat women, they shape what our little girls should love and how they should be treated (like a humble queen that deserves the best).
A father’s influence in his daughter’s life shapes her self-esteem, self-image, confidence and opinions of men.SheKnows
Boys on the other hand, will model themselves after their fathers. They will look for their father’s approval in everything they do, and copy those behaviors that they recognize as both successful and familiar.Huff Post
Thus, if dad was abusive, controlling, and dominating, those will be the patterns that their sons will imitate and emulate. However, if father is loving, kind, supportive, and protective, boys will want to be that.
So with the quotes above I am talking about all the fathers who stepped up to the plate when they could have walked away. Biological fathers and step fathers. I am talking to the fathers who need encouragement, who need a light! The fathers who are loving and supportive.
I know not all fathers out there deserve to be thanked due to some of them being abusive sexually/physically/emotionally, alcoholic, and what ever else they may do. However they still deserve love, the bible calls us to love our enemies too.
I understand that some of us find it hard to give credit and affirmation for things when we are selves don’t get it in return
like doing the house cleaning and dishes. However it is important to realize and understand that mentally/emotionally fathers go through the same things we go through. They think about themselves often the same way we think about ourselves. Guys just know how to hide it or show it differently. They self doubt and wonder if they are doing it all right, wait…….now doesn’t that sound familiar?
Statistic say that fatherless children are seven times more likely to be a teen parent, more likely to commit crime, abuse others, have identity issues and mental health issues, as well as likely to be a school drop out. 1 in 4 households are a fatherless home, that is almost
19.7 million children without a father in their life. That seems huge compared to homes without mothers.
It is proven however it is equally and extremely beneficial to have BOTH parents not just mom or dad. Sadly there are so many situations out there that suffer with out both or one or the other. I find though that we don’t give thanks to fathers enough for all that they do DO even when we don’t always see it. Even when we ask them to fix something and six months later its not fixed.
Reason behind the Thanks
I wanted to talk about this subject due to watching my husband (who is a wonder father to our three babies) was doing something the other day. and I thought to myself. So I stopped and watched him, intently playing with our kids, making them laugh and smile! Even thought he came home, dead and tired he took the time to play with them and make them smile.
I realized in that moment there are a lot of things he does for us that I don’t give him credit for. Things that he doesn’t ask us to celebrate, praise or give credit to things that he dismisses. Like going to work at six in the morning (sometimes without breakfast) to work his butt of for us, to provide for us. Also like loving us without question and wanting to do better for out family. I will admit there are a lot of things I wish he would do without being asked of him like reading to the kids, arts and crafts, taking out the trash, and some house chores . However I know he does things in his way and will do them eventually.
When I met my husband I was a single mother to my oldest who was three, my husband could have walked away from our relationship but he didn’t. He stepped up when someone else wouldn’t! So here is an extra thank you to those men out there, how with out a doubt, who were willing to step up and provide for those who were not theirs.
So here is my open letter to the fathers out there who need a little encouragement!
Dear Fathers of the World
Let me start of by saying from one parent to another, Thank You! I know parenting is hard no matter what age the child is, I know that being a parent requires a lot from you. So thank you for not backing out when you could have walked away. Thank you for teaching our children what they should act like as a man/woman and how to treat others and how others should treat them. Thank you for protecting us and for being you. As a mother and a wife, there is a lot that I will admit we don’t see or appreciate. Things like trying your hardest everyday, providing for the family (whether it be with your wife or partner or by yourself) You work your butt off, like us, to make sure there is food in the fridge and meals on the table. You work your butt off for the family. So this is for you! Please don’t stop trying your hardest, providing, protecting, and teaching! Please don’t stop even when you think that you don’t matter because you really do. You play a very crucial part of the family that mom’s can’t always be. We can’t always be a father figure. We can’t always teach them things like you can. I know this from experience. So fathers of the world both Step and Biological, Thank You for doing what you do! We are not perfect, no one is! Thank you for being consistent and strong for the family.
From one Grateful Mom -Little Wild Mom